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Gotti's Way Season Finale: The Sins of My Father
Posted on December 4, 2007 9:00 AM
Don't you just love it when celeb-reality stars tell the camera crews to "get the f-ck out?"
Be eaaaaaaasy!
Can't believe the Season Finale aired last night. It was over before it even really begun. But you know what? I had an epiphany while watching this episode.
I discovered the real reason behind my hatred for Irv.
He's my father.
NOOOO.... not my REAL father, silly rabbits! Let's be serious.
I meant that he reminds me of my own Pops and the relationship between him and Deb mirrors what my own parents went through in their relationship. More on that lil' later...
First, I want to get into the discussion/argument between Irv and Deb before he has his "diva" moment and demands the removal of the cameras.
Do you think Deb was wrong for hinting at a divorce with Sonny?
My response: NO. I think that Deb's relationship with her children is not only loving, but built on truth. She wants her children to know that the umbrella she and Irv are standing under is a weak one and that relationships between men and women shouldn't be carried out as such.
So, NO, it's true, "you can plan a pretty picnic but you can't predict the weather" (OUTKAST!!) but what you readjust, and you grow with someone, especially if you care for them... not go to the club and screw someone else for instant gratification.
With that, I have to agree.
I know y'all don't give a damn about my personal life, but I couldn't resist relating to this one. Now, I say that my father is similar to Irv because he was on a power trip throughout most of my childhood. Yes, I grew up in the PJs (I won't shout out which one, ha ha), but due to my father's work as a iron lather, I didn't want for anything. My mother and I were taken care of. I'm not hating, because I do realized I was blessed & had many things a lot of other people didn't have... Anyway, once I was born, he didn't want Mom to work anymore. Her only job, as far as he was concerned, was to make a home & take care of ME... which, I loved having a 24/7 mommy. However, because my father was the breadwinner, he used it as a position of power of my mom and did whatever he wanted to do, without considering our feelings. He would come in on Friday afternoons, shower and then go out... not coming home until Monday afternoon after the work day. As a child, I believed this to be normal. It never occurred to me that Daddy could have another girlfriend(s). See where the damage starts?
My mom, of course, didn't believe so... but she and my father hid their arguments from me. My mother also returned to her job once I reached eleven years old and she felt I was old enough to come home from school by myself-- I should've seen it coming then, right? It wasn't until I was 16 that my mom announced that she & I were relocating to an apartment in the city-- without my father. And then reality set her and myself free.
Now, my father will tell it differently. And as an adult, to this day, he doesn't want me knowing the ends and outs of their problems, which I discovered, were much deeper than I thought. Has this screwed me up in terms of me relating to & trusting people? We won't go into that :) But I'm growing, and learning, and have been inspired by my mother. Though she stayed for a long time, the point is that she left.
Deb can do it too. And yes, Mama, the first step is the hardest. We feel you. You CAN move on. You’re not waiting for the sun to shine– it’s already beaming, Mama. It's time to go bask in it and get that glow goin'.
However, back to the SF... at some point during the argument, Deb starts to choke up and Irv does something that shocks me. It's not the fact that he's decided to leave, but the fact that he admits Deb's tears disturb him and he can't lie to her anymore.
Then--BAM!-- he touches me again during the chat he has with Sonny, when he tells him, "if your tears fall, let 'em fall-- don't wipe 'em no more." I thought that was something really tender for someone as egotistical as he to tell his young son. I loved the story about Sonny's birth, too. For those who didn't watch, Irv basically described him shaking as he's holding his son for the first time, and when Sonny smiles up at him, he stops shaking. Aww.
I think lil' Sonny's gonna be alright.
But like they say, all things happen in threes... and yep, Irv hits me with the one-two-THREE this time. He admits to his paradoxical lifestyle, about how "he'll die for his children but he can't stop f*cking around"... and thats what tore his family up in the first place. It's the way he did it...
I think, for the first time all season, we saw vulnerability.
Don't get it twisted, y'all. I'm not saying that I'm taking back everything I previously said about Irv, because I meant it. He's still Irv The Perv. But I realize now that he is human.. and to err is human. Which is why I've also made peace with my Dad.
PLEASE let me know what you thought about the Season Finale.
Check back @ 2:30 p.m. for the Salt N' Pepa recap as well.
WHO LOVES YA, BABY?
--Breezy
Comments
Go back to your wife IRV and be a family man. Grow the fukk up.
did not c the hole ep but.....fuck deb, didnt she kick him out to start with, but now she wants a family.....she is messed up in the head. i think she got with him in the begining 4 da money, but now that its slowed up for him shes ready to go. if irv was still on top of the game would she still act like she wants a husbend....or would she want the money. i think she was tryin to trap him but got traped instead...with 3 kids and all that.
Last night's episode didn't change my view of Irv and oddly enough all the scenes that Breezy found endearing, I found to be disgusting. I hate him even more.
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Deb made me cry. I hate to see a person's heart being ripped out. Irv can come up with every excuse in the world, but the fact of the matter is that he has chosen to give up the family he loves so that he can screw countless groupies that he doesn't give a damn about.
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He is indicative of the problems the black community is facing. Undisciplined men and desperate women willing to put up with their crap thereby making it a vicious cycle.
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I don't want to support Irv and shyed away from the show just to make sure I was not putting money in his pockets. I was drawn to watching last night because of the previews showing an emotional Deb.
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Deb, you are beautiful my sister. Forget about that asshole. I know that's easier said than done, but get started on it. You and your children deserve so much better. Lets see how cool it is with Irv when you get a new man and he can't be running in and out of your house anymore.
Irv is an idiot. But hey deb, I'm going to take care of you baby. They struggling over at Murder Inc. ErvinGeoffrey only has 4 t-shirts, they thought "My Body" and "Uh Ohh" would hit. It's over. That house can fit in my living room. Plus I made over $400 million with one deal and didn't have to sale my company. I'm balling baby. That's whatthem niggas get, got down with a nigga that did my mom dirty, tried to black ball me from the industry because I had real street beef with Preme, tried to kill me, well Preme did that. Now I'm going to smash his wife, shoot her dollars and keep her secure, give them boys some G-Unit gear for the winter. But seriously, that nigga needs to grow up and take care of his family properly, don't use them for ratings and money. He's an idiot. Quit being a damn dog you bitch!
Irv is putting his family out there to pay his mortage, I can dig that, but....maybe he should watch Run's House and see how important a good family life if for the kids. He's putting his family through unnecessary bullshit because he wants to fuck around. At the point when you get married and have kids you have think about what's best for the kids and the family, not yourself. I can understand him grinding it out at work, cause you have to work hard to be successful, but after that come home to your family and make it work with your wife. Your kids are looking at the relationship, your daughter relationships in the future will be based on how you treat your wife. Do the right thing and be there for your family cause when you old them groupies ain't going to be there, plus your kids deserve better. I know the temptations of the game is a muthafucka, but the reward for having a happy family is greater than that feeling you get from that groupie chick.
I hope Irv can get his family back and keep it tight because he has a beautiful family and they deserve better.
I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING THAT BIRD SAID!
Please stop airing our dirty laundry on websites....that's the reason me and your momma broke up in the first place...it was all your fault! Stop fronitin...you know the reason I didn't come home on the weekend is because I had another family...stop being so greedy. You got me Monday-Thursday...can't your half brothers and sisters get a turn.
Child, you know good and well your daddy couldn't come home on the weekend because it was his other family's turn to see him. Didn't you get nintendo? Didn't you get barbies? Well quit acting crazy typing all this stuff about your family...and you know you ain't grow up in no dang projects!
I am so sick of people using the same excuse that Irv Gotti has used EVERY episode that "Deb kicked him out of the house". No, Deb, didn't kick him out, he had already kicked himself out the day he started cheating on her and bragging about it on radio stations like that was cool. I think that he loves Deb, but he's not in love with her but I must say that I saw a different side of him when he got upset that she was crying (and tried to blame it on the cameras, but anyway) and when he realized just how f-ed up his logic is. Deb is a good woman, and at first I thought she was stupid, but I tried to imagine being in her shoes and I feel for her. All Irv owes her is honesty, and if he doesn't wanto be with her, stop popping up. Bring the kids to your apartment in Manhattan so the next man can step up. I bet there's a few dudes out here right now who are watching the show, rubbing their hands together plotting on Deb because she's good money. I wish all the best to the family and I love their kids. Especially when Sonny's little brother seemed so unphased by it all and said that he was only crying because he saw his big brother crying: so sweet.
our daddy loves us more then you......ha ha ha
It's ins and outs not ends and outs dumb azz!!!!!!!!!
Now, my father will tell it differently. And as an adult, to this day, he doesn't want me knowing the ends and outs of their problems, which I discovered
what you stupid fucks fail to realize is that all these episodes for the first season were filmed and completed months ago....like by the end of the summer was probably when they wrapped it up....right as i type this shit up and as you mothafuckas are reading this they are most likely filming the second season right-damn-now.....and for all we know gotti and deb' probably reconciled
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